Even from childhood, I was taught to be of service in the world. It runs through the veins of my family, being reinforced at seven years old when my mom and I cooked and delivered meals for homeless folks.
When I was 21, I traveled to Africa and found my life profoundly transformed through my apprenticeship with Sibanda, a Zimbabwean traditional healer who treated me as his daughter. He awakened in me a magic that I hadn’t found in the culture I was raised in.
When I returned to the U.S. I continued to follow the voice within that magically led me to create the world I wanted to live in. I moved west, became an organic farmer, married, launched two successful businesses, became a yoga teacher, co-founded an innovative schoolyard garden program, built a home, and became a mother. I was gonna do it ALLLLLLL.
While each of these actions arose from the voice of my heart, I was also plagued by self-doubt, worry and anxiety. I often had severe headaches. An incessant to-do list seemed to run my life. My inner critic born out of patriarchy and colonialism and misogyny and injustice was literally running my life.
Though I had accomplished so much in the physical world, I painfully came to find that I didn’t quite trust my own voice or my own body. I was still living from a place of fear instead of flow and joy.
When an intense illness cast me into true despair after the birth of my son, I finally began the journey to the core of myself. I emerged from that deep work more whole, more open and more fully alive. I felt the presence of my ancestors, my guides, my higher self, my heart and all beings of the earth as my teammates.
I found myself called to begin working with other women like me, the leaders and doers, the women who cannot help but take care of everything and everyone around them– and who need help hearing and trusting their own voices.
Through my own experience and my work with many women, I understand first hand how living from your gut and heart inevitably brings you face to face with your own anxieties, pain and limitations because it is not yet the way of our dominant culture. I also understand that as we quiet the mind and listen to the heart and gut and highest self a new life of possibility and expansion and love and joy open to us.
It is my belief that when we change ourselves, we change the world. And that is what I am here to do.
How I work this magic:
I hold a Bachelors of Social Work from the University of Vermont, and am certified through the Courageous Living Coach Certification, a holistic program grounded in supporting clients exactly where they are.
I am a spiritual mentor who creates sacred spaces for women to hear and trust their inner compass. I serve as a conduit to access the inner guidance that is beyond the mind. I values equality, depth, vulnerability and great communication and teaches these skills to others. I facilitates talks and experiences leading with intuition, pre-marriage rituals and provides mentoring and support for those willing to look inward on their spiritual journey. I lives in Port Townsend, WA known as Kah Tai by the S’Klallam Indian community. I provide my loving and guided support online and in-person. www.lexikoch.com. I also have the extreme privilege of growing organic flowers for weddings and other sacred ceremonies - www.flourishflowerspt.com